Okay, this is actually what you do if you’re being sexually harassed in any kind of public space. Draw attention to it, preferably pull away and let EVERYONE know that someone is touching you. This will not only get him to get off you but he’ll definitely think about this situation next time he wants to do something like this.
Spreading the word.
My mom and I were talking about this today after hearing about a woman who was molested on a plane who said nothing until she was picked up at the airport by her parents. My mom looked at me and asked what I would do in that situation and I looked her dead in the eye and I told her “it would take me .02 seconds to realize what was going on and yell angrily, and then I would be straight on to bitch slapping him so hard he wouldn’t be able to see the punch I’d throw with the opposite hand”.
She nodded and accepted my salty language like a seasoned sailor.
I’ve had experience with this before, in Prague a group of five girls and I were followed by three men at night. After a while they started yelling at us, the most common being “how much?” Meaning how much we “cost” as prostitutes. Seeing as they weren’t going to stop, I turned on my heel, faced them (which surprised them), spat at their feet and responded with “You couldn’t afford me.” This prompted the other girls to start yelling back at them as well, starting with our spitfire Czech friend to start slinging curses in Czech as she and the rest of the girls came up beside me. Needless to say the men backed off and pretty much fled. They weren’t expecting a fight. It empowered me and encouraged the rest of the girls to yell back too.
I’ve heard that a lot of people don’t know what to do in this situation because they’ve been taught all their lives to be polite and non-aggressive. Keep your heads down or whatever.
Keep in mind that studies have shown that rapists look for victims who won’t fight back.
Remember that nobody has the right to touch you without your consent or harass you, and you have all the right to make the biggest fuss about it that you can possibly make.
Get angry. Be in command.
BUT ALSO if your immediate reaction is to freak out or second-guess yourself or just quickly get off at the next stop, that is okay.
Don’t ever let anybody shame you for your reaction to sexual abuse. Sometimes your first reaction is "oh my god, what is happening? what do I do? will he stop if I tell him to? what will other people think if I bring attention to it?" because society teaches women to second-guess ourselves, to not confront men, and to always think first and foremost about what other people will think of our actions.
And besides that, it doesn’t always take “.02 seconds” to realize what’s going on. People who grope women learn to be subtle. They stand where you can’t see them without craning your neck around awkwardly, and they start by pressing against you very slowly so it doesn’t feel like anything more than the usual press of people on a crowded bus or metro. The other day I was beside this guy on a bus for 20 minutes before I realized that it wasn’t the heavy jacket he was carrying pressing up against my thigh, it was his leg and he was purposely rubbing it against mine and breathing heavily. I was so freaked out - because jesus, I’d been letting this guy touch me for 20 minutes without realizing it - that I missed my bus stop. I moved seats as soon as I could easily do so in a crowded, moving bus. Later on, my boyfriend and I ended up having a huge fight because he kept asking me why didn’t I just move? why couldn’t I stand up for myself? why would I let another guy touch me like that?
Let me tell you, feeling shamed for my reaction sucked way more than the actual abuse.
That woman who was molested on the plane could have had a million reasons why she didn’t feel safe standing up to her attacker, and it’s really victim-shamey and gross to talk about how we should all be better than her.
I’VE BEEN LAUGHING FOR 5,000 YEARS
Owsley County, Ky. — There are lots of diversions in the Big White Ghetto, the vast moribund matrix of Wonder Bread–hued Appalachian towns and villages stretching from northern Mississippi to southern New York, a slowly dissipating nebula of poverty and misery with its heart in eastern Kentucky, the last redoubt of the Scots-Irish working class that picked up where African slave labor left off, mining and cropping and sawing the raw materials for a modern American economy that would soon run out of profitable uses for the class of people who 500 years ago would have been known, without any derogation, as peasants. Thinking about the future here and its bleak prospects is not much fun at all, so instead of too much black-minded introspection you have the pills and the dope, the morning beers, the endless scratch-off lotto cards, healing meetings up on the hill, the federally funded ritual of trading cases of food-stamp Pepsi for packs of Kentucky’s Best cigarettes and good old hard currency, tall piles of gas-station nachos, the occasional blast of meth, Narcotics Anonymous meetings, petty crime, the draw, the recreational making and surgical unmaking of teenaged mothers, and death: Life expectancies are short — the typical man here dies well over a decade earlier than does a man in Fairfax County, Va. — and they are getting shorter, women’s life expectancy having declined by nearly 1.1 percent from 1987 to 2007.
If the people here weren’t 98.5 percent white, we’d call it a reservation.
Signal boosting in case anyone needed to know this.
This is informative as heck. Show this to everyone!
This is actually some great info! Why can’t they teach this kind of thing in school??
Wow, I’ve taken health and sex ed three times during my educational process and never learned any of this. Thanks.
Definitely some important information here!
this is supa awesome. i do think it should be noted that side effects of EC *really* vary. when I took EC I didn’t have any symptoms whatsoever.
ALSO: If you can’t afford EC but you have access to regular birth control pills, it’s possible to take several of those as a substitute for EC! Check here for the correct dosages.
Friendly reminder that I’m sitting in my house in Turkey and I can hear Ellie Goulding playing somewhere in the neighborhood.
My favorite part of modern paranormal fiction is when protag googles the thing
"What is this, this ‘vampires???’ Wow what a novel concept to me!! I will make a huge effort and learn Three Things about them"
Emma Thompson & Bryn Terfel | Sweeney Todd musical (March 5, 2014)
WAIT JUST ONE FUCKING MINUTE, Emma Thompson is playing Mrs. Lovett?
AND AUDRA MCDONALD IS PLAYING THE BEGGAR WOMAN?!?!! ARE YOU SHITTING ME??
I just really love Robespierre okay
He ate 400 million babies tho.
I really want to see some statistics backing this up. Even at the height of the Terror, if you suppose Robespierre was consuming an impressive two pounds of baby flesh daily, 400 million seems like a stretch.
Sick of the Robespierre apologism on this website
There are 63 000 000 people living in France today. In 1794 there were only about 25 000 000, which is an increase of 38 000 000 people after the death of Robespierre made him incapable of eating all the children.
Then there’s the population density of France compared to other countries in the area. Take the Netherlands, for example. The Netherlands has a population density almost 100 times that of France. So what’s the difference between these two countries? It’s obvious. There was no Robespierre in the Netherlands eating all the babies. Therefore, if France had been Robespierre-less like their Dutch neighbours, there would have been 100 times as many people living in France, and 38 000 000 * 100 = 400 000 000
Conclusion: Robespierre ate 400 million babies
(I just realized I forgot a chair leg, oops.
He’s keeping it upright by sheer evil, clearly.)